Judgement Day
why do people like to judge?
i quote: "he/she appears to ...." , "i think he/she is..." and therefore, "why the hell are you with such a person?!" mindfully, they do not know that person well enough to even comment a thing! don't say anything to make yourself look shallow if you only met the person once. you being older than me by a mere <10yrs.
by judging him/her would not make you look better.
what gives them the right to judge?
that is a good question. i frankly don't know why and i try to refrain myself from judging people.
i know well that i am imperfect. everyone has their right to choose what sort of life they want to live, how they would want to behave and present themselves to this imperfect world. fine.
why do people judge? maybe because they have been compared and judged before?
and so gains fulfillment by judging others. sounds confusing?
ok, let me illustrate and put it as rationally as i can.
when you date a few people at the same time. it is highly unlikely that you would end up with all of them right? after a period of dating, evaluation and testing out the waters etc, you tend to choose the one most appropriate for you. then, happily settle for that choice, cherish him/her and make things work!
that is one side of the story.
what happens to those who didn't manage to work out a relationship with you.
they start to judge you...
"that girl is a flirt. she is aimless.!she has no directions! one time date so many guys. i thought she liked me!?" mutiply this by the number of rejected suitors.
"see? you are unhappy because you didn't choose the right guy! if you got wotgether with someone your family approves of, then all these would not happened."
"in what ways is he better than me? he is young, childish, immatured!"
this is the other side of the story.
i wonder what gives them the right to judge other and exude a holier-than-thou attitude.
may i remind these people that, if you were as good as you thought you were, then you would have already been chosen to be blessed to a sweet communion. the one right beside her would have been 'you'. not 'him'. thus, he should have a winning edge over you. moreover it is her choice. since you trusted her enough to want to be with her and entrust her with your heart, then you should trust her choice of a partner! are you not doubting yourself?
the only person who has the right to judge anyone is God Almighty.
He created you for His purpose, he deliberately made us with flaws but he also endowed us with talents. He loves us for who we are, silly and naive, stern and grumpy. but alas, He is our magnanimous Lord. He is the one who keeps all the scores, every little thing one does counts to how you would be judged and ultimately decides whether you would be richly rewarded eternity and be with God forever.
Disclaimer:
the above article is not directed at anybody but everybody. we all sinned. for when have we not entertained such thought, some of us have even put them into actions.
but, after a break up, please stop giving yourself excuses to why you broke up and for you actions (or the lack of it), say meaningless things like i-love-you, i-miss-you! don't assume that the person has not gotten over you nor think too highly of yourself. don't think of the one you broke off with as stupid, don't make yourself look an asshole. it takes 7 seconds to reach orgasm and only a determined spirit to forget the past.
from the very day you broke up, some things has and will change.
posted by Veen @ 22:33
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